InstantForum.NET v4.1.4Arthritis Foundation Forumhttp://community.arthritis.org/forums/sitehelp@arthritis.orgSat, 21 Nov 2009 14:30:58 GMT20http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxYes. It is frustrating and embarrassing.Thu, 20 Sep 2007 19:38:00 GMTAzGalhttp://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxI think my problem is, I run two businesses from home. My husband lost two parents in one year, and had to make lots of journeys across country. I ended up doing lots of the work, and he still lets me!<br>He finally hired me a bookkeeper and local CPA, and so maybe the burden will ease up soon.<br>I want to get to doing my crafts, and church activities more than paperwork.<br>He keeps askign me why I am in the office so much, but my nice reminders to him to help me are not always noticed.<br>I try not to nag, but leave lots of clues. Of course, there is the type A typical Fibro personality which says I have to be in control and do it all.......Thu, 20 Sep 2007 17:48:00 GMTEmmab2003http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxtheres no reason to worry about things you can't control, whatever it is will happen any way! if i have something i can't do anything about, i try to get lost in a project for awhile. i know you can't always avoid stress, but i try to consider how it will affect my kids. i'm a single mom so if i'm down for a few days everyone suffers for it. it sounds old fashion but sewing really helps me forget about whatever i'm worried about because if your mind is else where your going to stitch through a finger so you have to concentrate on the project. i didn't realize how much the stress affected my FM until after i learned to shut some of it out of my life.Thu, 20 Sep 2007 15:51:00 GMTchristinia3http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxHow do you get rid of stress?<br>Really, every day I say I have got to stop spending so much time on the stressful things, and do some things for myself for my benefit.<br>And every day my plans are thwarted.Thu, 20 Sep 2007 14:34:00 GMTEmmab2003http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxi got depressed for a long time when the dr.s had me on all kinds of meds trying to find what worked for me. i quit talking to friends and pretty much quit living life because everyone would ask "how are u feeling" and it sucked to have to tell them. I've gotten over that now but everyday can still be a struggle. i try to enjoy every good day i have because i know how bad it could be, i'm so thankful that my health has gotten better since that time. one thing that really helped was learning to shut off the stress in my life- it takes a lot of practice but stress can be a major pain trigger.Wed, 19 Sep 2007 17:30:00 GMTchristinia3http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxJust stay strong and remember you have alot of company on this website. All suffering and going thru the same thing right along side you. I do hope you are feeling somewhat better. I am under alot of stress with trying to get paid as I've been off work for 7 weeks now and the stress is making things worse. I too have knots in my muscles across my shoulders and into my neck. Are you under alot of stress? I read that stress is the worst thing you can have with Fibro as it makes the symptoms worse.<br>Take care and stay strong!<br>KrisFri, 31 Aug 2007 19:28:00 GMTKISSPOOH2http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxI get frustrated that I cann't say that I am healed of this disorder. One of the head people of the Non-Profit I work for asked me if I was better now. She saw me running around doing my work so I guess she figured I was okay. Actually at that time I had a heart monitor on because I was having some pain in my left chest & feeling like I could pass out.I think I have gotten to the bottom of what causes those problems. Now I have some knots in the muscles along my shoulder blades. It always seems there is something . I get very frustrated with this.Wed, 29 Aug 2007 23:51:00 GMTEunice20http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxHi Keith,<br>I know exactly how you feel. I don't have many good days and when I just start to feel a bit better; I start to go down hill again. It's strange thinking that no one can really know what we go through or how bad the pain can be. My sister told me I just needed a vacation and then I'd feel fine! I haven't talked to her in a few weeks because she just has no clue.<br>When people ask how I am, I just tell them their has been no change and then move onto another topic. I know my immediate family understands and lean on them for their strength.<br>Stay strong and have a GREAT day!<br>PeaceMon, 27 Aug 2007 13:07:00 GMTKISSPOOH2http://community.arthritis.org/forums/Topic4084394-1819-1.aspxAnyone else feel embarrassed or self-conscious when they have a long stretch of bad days? When it's been bad for a week or more I get to where I'm ashamed to answer honestly when someone asks, "How do you feel?"<br> Hope everyone is staying strong and fighting the good fight tonight. Strength and courage.Sun, 26 Aug 2007 23:37:36 GMTKeith99