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Jeannette123

Posted Tuesday, October 25, 2005 3:02 PM

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This is a special message to all of you who are dealing with a medical issue and are struggling with dating issues.

I'll call myself, Hannah, as it is the Hebrew translation of my name. I'm a healthy young woman of 42, and yes, thats young, lol.

There is a very nice man, lets call him "Tom" , and Tom has arthritis.

Tom has a generous heart. I've learned this by how he gives of himself to others. His hobby causes him to be involved with numerous people on a daily basis. He's ready to offer a kind word, his time, and even his money. I know he lives with pain, and that makes him all the more special.

He is funny, as well, and might be considered a bit of a flirt, if he wasent such a gentleman.

For me, this is just a budding friendship. If he and I remain on a friendship level, that would be just fine, a man like him is a friend worth investing in.

Let me tell you all, though, if someday, this budding friendship should grow into something more personal - I would be very pleased.

In 1998 - I had been diagonosed with a medical condtion which caused me to be an invalid for the next few years. It was a heartbreaking time, and a learning time. I learned alot about life, and people. People I thought were friends went away, and other kinder and giving people found there way into my life. I also lived with pain and sometimes alot of embarassement (long periods in the washroom). Two frequently heard phrases were: Oh God, please make the pain stop or Oh God, please make the bleeding stop.

Now I'm well, and lookie look, theres Tom, lol.

Okay, so I understand pain from a front row perspective, but still...I know my own heart.

It wouldent matter to me, if a person was ill - in any way. I am intelligent enough to see the value of a mans heart. I value character traits such as integrity, and compassion. I look for a sense of humour, as best as can be when living with chronic pain. A little cranky (or alot) is understandable - and part of the package. This is life, it isnt always pain free, but its life and worth living.

Let me tell you, if I am this way, others are too, you just haven't met them yet. So - be encouraged, there are other "Hannahs" out there, and just as pretty as I am too. (wink)

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graham44

Posted Wednesday, June 20, 2007 6:24 PM

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finding someone who understands (to date), someone who can handle the difficulties posed by the disease is a challenge to say the least.

but also at hand is simply managing a job and all of the day-to-day activities. i'm very involved with nonprofits, volunteer in the community, but keeping regular work has proven nearly impossible. i'm trying to find my place in the professional world now that being at work on a regular basis is impossible. i'm a good writer and hope to make a living at it - it's something i can do on a semi-regular basis, when i'm feeling well enough. but breaking into a highly competitive market is difficult too.

my hope is to find someone who loves me for who i am - sees what good there is without concentrating on the limits of ability.

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stevencarini

Posted Thursday, September 13, 2007 12:05 PM

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Jeannette I hope you are doing great. I would like to know more about you. Steve

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